Navigating Grief with God on my Side

Navigating Grief with God on my Side

“For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.”  Jeremiah 29:11

There is no official handbook for navigating grief, everyone processes grief in their own way.  As a Christian I choose to lean on my faith and the Word of God. The Bible didn’t offer me medical answers to the myriad of questions I had about why our baby didn’t make it into our arms, but it kept my spirit and hope alive when the weight of the loss seemed too hard to stand up against some days. I prayed, I grieved, and I prayed some more. I knew that I could rest on knowing “…with God all things are possible.” Matthew 19:26

I poured through the Bible looking for answers, I rested on friend’s healing words and brought all my doubts to my husband, my rock through all of this. My questions were endless, most of them directed at God. The one question that played over and over throughout the grieving process was how can He put the desire of more children into my heart yet not follow through on what I so desperately wanted. My faith was rocked when the doctor confirmed what the tech had documented, “your baby has no heartbeat”. But I didn’t give up.  I knew we’d be blessed with another child, I had to trust God had a bigger plan for our family.

I don’t believe there is a certain way to pray or you can do it wrong. I believe you’re allowed to feel anger, sadness and hopelessness but do not rest on those feelings. God wants you to lean on Him and cast your fears, worries and anxieties onto Him. (1 Peter 5:7) If you seek Him, He is there with open arms. “Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you. “For everyone who asks receives, and he who seeks finds, and to him who knocks it will be opened.” Matthew 7:7-8

How do you move on with the loss the of a baby, who was prayed for and so wanted? You rest on God even more. You trust that He will grant you the desires of your heart in His time.

Photo credit: adapted from MICOLO J | Flick

“Take delight in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart.”  Psalm 37:4 NIV

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Lindsey Williams

Lindsey Williams is a former elementary and special education teacher turned stay at home mom with a writing job on the side. She’s a native Bostonian married to a southerner raising a family of blondes in the Queen City. Lindsey is an infertility warrior, miscarriage survivor and proud to have a successful pregnancy after loss. She’s part of a club where admission is heartbreaking but support is never ending.

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