Our magic missing baby girl

Its so sad to use the word “normal” to describe the women who have experienced losing a baby, but the truth is here, thanks to all of the courageous mothers sharing their stories.

Too many in my opinion, its all really very sad.

7 weeks ago I gave birth to identical twin girls, it was an uncomplicated pregnancy, the babies reaching full term at 37 weeks. ( a rarity for MCDA twins).
However on the day before I was booked in to be induced at the hospital, the Drs discovered one of the babies hearts had stopped.

They conducted an emergency cesarean section on me, delivering a healthy baby girl and her deceased identical twin sister.

No results from our babies autopsy reveal any cause of death.

Instead, we have a beautiful daughter who’s alive and making our lives feel full of hope as well as the feelings of huge loss and sadness we have for losing her sister. We will miss you very much bub and will remember you every day.

Always Love, your mum.

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  1. I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I lost my son at 25 weeks along. My water broke at 23 weeks and I ended up having issues with the umbilical cord while in the hospital and his blood supply was cut before we could get him delivered. There is no pain like losing a child. My thoughts are with you.

  2. Dear Sally,

    I am so sorry for your loss. It is a pretty unreal situation to experience such joy and such sorrow at the same time. Sadly, I am standing in a similar place as you. I delivered boy/girl twins 14 weeks ago today, at 36 weeks. We, too discovered that our baby girl’s heart had stopped beating the day before without any explanation as to why. I don’t really know how life goes on from here, but we are trying to keep going one day at a time for our beautiful baby boy. I hope that you can do the same. If you ever need someone to chat to, please feel free to send an e-mail along, I’d love to hear from you. Keep strong, I like to think it is what all of our babies want us to do. xo


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