I Feel The Stigma of Miscarriage & It’s Not Fair

I am the founder of Unspoken Grief.

I speak to so many families each week who have been touched by perinatal loss and grief.

I know just how important talking is — for our own health and to show others it’s okay.

I work hard to try to remove the stigma. To make it ‘easier’ for those needing support to find it.

For those needing to express their grief — to be heard — with compassion and care.

Yet, as I sit here typing, unsure if I want this to be published, I feel the stigma.

I feel silenced, over-concerned about what others will say — & what they won’t say but, will think to themselves.

I am currently losing another pregnancy. Another should-be child. 

I am holding on to my grief — to the words I want to type. For fear of others.

I feel the stigma I am trying to break. I can feel the pressure of society wanting me to keep this in.

I am embarrassed to type this — though it is nothing to be embarrassed about.

I feel the urge to keep the details inside. To keep my feelings inside.

For other’s sake — not mine. & that’s not fair.

Devan McGuinness

is the founder of the online resource Unspoken Grief , which is dedicated to breaking the silence of perinatal grief for those directly and indirectly affected by miscarriage, stillbirth and neonatal death. Using her own experience of surviving 12 miscarriages, Devan has been actively supporting and encouraging others who are wading through the challenges associated with perinatal and neonatal loss.

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