1. Elita, I’m so very sorry for your loss. We lost our twins, Aliya and Bennett, at 14 weeks 2 days after a very complicated pregnancy. It turns out I had a bleeding cervical polyp that compromised my mucus plug and let infection in, and also rubbed Aliya’s amniotic sac to the point of catastrophic rupture. One thing you might consider – which is helping me and my husband so much – is joining a perinatal/neonatal loss support group. Our hospital gave us information about the one held in their building once a month, and we joined just less than a week after our loss. We’ve since joined a second one, and it truly helps so much to be able to share and cry with others who totally understand. Even though our stories are all different, we all miss our babies so much and are trying to figure out how to carry on.

    Hugs to you…

  2. It might be hard to see right now but with time you’ll come to realize that everything happens for a reason. Please make sure to get yourself some professional help. My SIL didn’t and has let the grief totally consume her. My daughter was born 6 months after the still birth of her daughter and she lashed out in rage desperately hoping these actions would help lessen her pain. Take care.

  3. I feel the exact same way. I miscarried 6 days ago. When trying to help others understand the depth of my pain and emptiness the only way I can describe it is to say our hearts feel broken. I now know my heart has never truly been broken. Nothing has ever felt this bad. I don’t know where to go from here.

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