4th Loss and at a Loss

I am 28 and have had 4 consecutive miscarriages in the last 2 years.

The first was in Oct 2010, it was a surprise pregnancy and not really a huge shock when I lost it 4 days after I found out. My partner and I were not that upset but still sad. I was 4weeks 5 days along.

My second loss was in May 2011. This time we thought it would work out and be ok. Another loss happened at 5 weeks 6 days. I was very upset over this loss and had a hard time moving past it but it got easier day by day.

My third loss happened in January 2012. At this point my ob had put me on progesterone and I started taking them the minute I found out I was pregnant right after Christmas 2011. The did an ultrasound at 8 weeks and found the embryo was in multiple clots and thought it was a molar pregnancy, it wasn’t. I had a d&c on Jan 21st. This loss devastated me and I was in bed for 2 days crying.

After this loss, they ran every test my ob could, at least I think she did. Our chromosomes are fine, my thyroid is fine, everything seems fine. I even had a hysteroscopy and it was fine.

My 4th loss happened on July 6th when I used the misolprostol to pass the baby. I found out a week and a half before this that the baby had no heartbeat but my ob wanted to checked my hcg just to make sure as my dates were lining up. A week later still no heartbeat and my heartache started all over again.

This time I am numb to the loss, I have had so many with no successful pregnancies. I am beginning to wonder if it will ever happen for us.

My partner tries hard to understand the loss and support me but it is a process that is over for him long before it is over for me.

My ob has ran out of options and I will see an RE to dig deeper into my problem.

I even wonder now if my ob checked for a clotting problem. I want to find a place to lay blame but there is no place for it. It is an unfortunate circumstance of life and it just does not get any easier with time.

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  1. I’m sorry, honey. Although I have had one successful pregnancy, I’m currently going through my sixth miscarriage. It really doesn’t get any easier. My heart still breaks just as much. I’m so sorry, you’ve had to go through four.
    I’m really glad you are going to see an RE. They really have so much more expertise and are more helpful than almost any OB can be. I hope they will be able to help you find answers, or something that can help you carry a child.
    I pray that healing will come to your heart, that your pain will fade, and that you will soon be able to realize your dream of carrying a child. Love and peace to you.

  2. I’m so sorry for all your losses! I can’t even imagine. Your OB for sure needs to check you for every clotting issue out there – especially if with one of your losses they could see clots. I’m really surprised they haven’t yet. They should run the whole barrage of clotting tests to make see if you have anything and if you do they could recommend baby aspirin and possibly an anti-coagulant as soon as you get a positive pregnancy test result. Ask you doc about this for sure.

  3. First of all, I am so, so sorry for your losses. I reach out to you today because I am in a very similar boat. I see that you posted this last summer so my response isn’t exactly timely, but it is now that I am in this same situation. I just had my fourth consecutive miscarriage just under a month ago. The first of the “series” was March 2012, the second July 2012, the third April 2013 and then the fourth was in October. My OB has now referred me to a specialist and I meet with them next week. I am curious what has happened for you since meeting with the RE. I so hope they were able to lead you down a path of a successful pregnancy. Thank you for sharing your story and allowing me to relate to you. Take care.

    1. Hi Lindsey,

      I am so sorry you are in this boat. It is not a fun place to be. Time does make things better(I try to believe this)…I hope you do find answers soon.

      Since I created this post, I have now had 2 more losses. One in August of this year and one in this month.

      The RE I saw last November really hasn’t done much to help me. I had all the clotting tests and a laporoscopy.

      I have a clotting disorder called Factor VI(5) Leiden but only inherited from one parents so it doesn’t call for any heparin or anything. I did try taking aspirin with my last 2 pregnancies and that did not help at all.

      During my laporoscopy they discovered that my right fallopian tube is completely blocked off with what my doctor referred to as a “2nd uterus” but its closed completely. So I do not get any eggs from that side.

      My RE wants to discuss opening this tube however, it can cause risks such as ectopic pregnancy or it could rupture…I have an appt in Jan 2014 to see her however I believe I will cancel this appt.

      I have an appt with Life quest in Toronto with Dr. Laskin…he is a reproductive immunologist and he is a very well known specialist in recurrent pregnancy loss. I am hoping his tests (they cost $350) will shed some light on my situation.

      If your RE does not get you any answers I would have him/her refer you to a reproductive immunologist, it may be worth you time and money. I will let you know at the end of Feb when I go.

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